My local no violence centre told me i was not a victim of violence!?

This is my second post to this forum. After my first post, I was reflecting on the past years, and I remember one time I attempted to leave my situation, I drove with my 7 year old to my local family violence agency, I walked into the building in tears, and they asked me to wait for a practitioner. A woman emerged from the offices and called me though, she directed my child into a playroom while we spoke. I told her what my partner had been doing to me, I told her he choked and kicked me, and pulled my hair, and sat on me so I couldnt move, this is CLEARLY ABUSE!!. I remember clear as day like it was yesterday, she said to me "But are you scared of him? domestic violence is all about fear, every relationship has issues, maybe its not domestic violence and you just need couples counselling", I couldnt believe my ears! and as I sit here now as a qualified registered clinical social worker I am HORRIFIED that this happened to me! I remember leaving feeling defeated, and it makes me feel disgusted that a professional would speak to a vulnerable hurting victim survivor like that!